Feeling Sexy and Motherhood

By Julie

Sometimes it’s hard to feel sexy after you become a Mom. Once you become a Mom your first priority is that little baby, toddler or child. It can be hard to feel sexy when you are exhausted chasing after children all day long and being up with them all night.

You’d like to feel like this:

But really you are beyond exhausted and the last thing you want to do is put on sexy lingerie. Usually it is comfy pajamas that are more than likely stained with breast milk. 

It’s particularly hard to feel sexy while breastfeeding. It’s easy to start feeling like a farm animal while nursing and the last thing you want is someone else touching you. Hormones are definitely raging. Your sex drive is most likely non-existent. The reason for this is the hormone prolactin which is necessary for breastfeeding. Unfortunately, it also lowers your sex drive. Don’t worry it does return after you are finished breastfeeding.

Once you are finished breastfeeding, you might start to feel your sex drive returning. Now what? You’re still getting up three times a night with a teething restless toddler. You’re still chasing that increasingly busy toddler during the day. You are so tired you can’t see straight. This is when you need to start concentrating on yourself and your needs.

Here are a few ideas to get to feeling sexy again:

1. Take a nap. If you feel exhausted you aren’t going to feel sexy.

2. Make a date with your partner. Concentrate on each other.

3. Go get a massage and pedicure. Spend time relaxing.

4. Get your hair done. Make yourself feel pretty. You’ll start feeling more like the old you and less like a milk cow. Promise.

5. Now go shopping. Wear something pretty that fits right and you’ll start to feel sexy again.

Keep Me Drea Bralette, $42.

I love this soft, cozy bralette made of a cotton blend that feels like silk. Looks a lot better than my stained PJs!

By Katie Evans

Confidence (noun): belief in oneself and one's powers and abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance.

The definition of confidence; so simple yet so hard to grasp for some of us. Why is it that we can ooze confidence in our careers, outfits, and with our girlfriends but once we're in an intimate setting, we freeze? Owning and embracing our self-confidence is the first step to looking and feeling our best! Fitness and confidence go hand-in-hand, and it's the one area that you have complete control over. 

 

Now, before we go parading around in one of Eve's skimpy little numbers, we need to own our confidence:

1. Stop comparing! We're all made to be different so embrace it; if everyone was alike, it'd be a pretty boring world.
2. Think positively. Instead of complaining about your "problem" areas, embrace what your body HAS done for you. Did you have a baby recently? Run a race? Defeat a sickness? Have a motto that you can use to lift your spirits up (like "Celebrate Your Inner Eve").
3. Except mistakes. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. 
4. Surround yourself with positive people. Just like sneezes, positiveness is contagious.
5. Do something you love. Everyday. Be greedy, put yourself first, and make sure you're happy before serving others because that positive energy will follow you.

Confidence starts with YOU. 

Next week, we'll discuss exercises that we can do right in our bed with our new confident-self!